Asperger Couple
As a special needs educator, I can help you or your partner who is diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).
It is important to seek Asperger couple counselling in Singapore with an ASD-specific couple counsellor.
Uninformed counsellors may not understand the intentions of either partner and so may perpetuate the confusion that exists in many of these neurodiverse of Asperger relationships.
Therapy with the neurotypical(NT) Asperger couples is directed towards the ‘Aspie’ or the NT to adjust to his or her partner.
Asperger syndrome will cause difficulties in communication, both verbal and non-verbal, social interaction and imagination.
Some couples have reported feeling not being understood, not heard and having their problems trivialised by their partners.
At times, the lack of empathy demonstrated by their ‘Aspie’ loved ones leads many NTs to lose sight of their own reality and collapse into agonizing despair.
Neurodiverse Couples Counseling
As a masters level special educator specializing in autism spectrum disorders, I am able to effectively help Neurodiverse Couples to identify root cause of issues through a neurological lens. Our Asperger couple counselling is specifically designed to help partners cope with and manage meltdowns and other unique challenges.
Once partners are able to view their unique difficulties and differences through a “neurological lens”, they are often able to demonstrate greater compassion and a willingness to develop helpful strategies for improving their marriage/relationship.
Have you ever felt like you and your partner are on different wavelengths in the way you experience the world, interpret interactions and communicate with each other? This may be the case as individual brain is wired differently. This is called a neurodiverse relationship. It refers to one or both partners being on the autism spectrum. Neurological differences in the ways your brains work may make it hard to see eye-to-eye, live together, co-parent, be in social settings together or communicate about certain topics. While all couples experience challenges within their relationship, neurodiverse couples may face unique challenges based on these neurological differences. Neurodiversity can lead to rich, fulfilling relationships but it can also cause frustration, stress and heartache.
Neurodiversity Magnet
Often Asperger adults and neurotypicals may feel like a “magnet” attracting them together. The neurotypical may be attracted to the Aspie’s stability, focus and intelligence. The Aspie may appreciate the neurotypical helping him or her navigate social situations. They may feel like they are complementary, a perfect fit.
Differences Turn Into Dysfunctional Patterns
Once the couple is married, they discover that they speak different languages and have a disparity in how they think and experience emotions. Without the tools to understand and constructively deal with neurodiversity, these differences are often interpreted negatively which, over time, become cemented into dysfunctional painful patterns which gradually destroy the relationship.
“We specialize in Asperger couple counselling in Singapore to create hope right from the start.”
Healing Wounded Neurodiverse Relationships with Asperger Couple Therapy
With proper treatment or coaching and investment by both partners, it is possible for neurodiverse couples to have a sustainable, rewarding, and fulfilling relationship that celebrates the good and manages the challenging aspects of their different personality characteristics. It is critical to work with a therapist or coach that understands Asperger’s.
Hope and Change Through Coaching and Therapy
The perceived rigidity and self-focus of the AS partner can change – there is hope. The therapy work we do together will create hope right from the start. This happens through understanding, awareness, and accountability. The first step is to create an individualized treatment or coaching plan for your specific needs. Immediate crises are addressed up front along with a thorough assessment of your collective and individual histories. From there the work begins as we do cognitive and experiential exercises to create a new way of being in relationship together. Homework is assigned to keep the progress moving forward outside of session. This is done in a collaborative way so the speed of change is appropriate for each partner and couple. Creating new ways of relating must go beyond the cognitive realm and into real behaviour change. Learn new ways of communicating and adjusting that may be more effective and constructive for a neurodiverse relationship.
My Partner Doesn’t See the Need for Asperger Couple Counselling
Many people on the autism spectrum have a hard time sensing that something is missing from They also often have a hard time assessing their own behaviour and its impact on others. That does not mean your thoughts and feelings aren’t important and valuable. Counseling is for you to have a place to receive support for your full range of thoughts and feelings.
Let Me Support You as You Navigate The Strengths & Challenges Neurodiversity Brings To Your Relationship
You are experiencing difficulties in your relationship and you are wondering if your partner or spouse has Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorder(ASD), or you or your partner/spouse identifies as neurodiverse or has been formally diagnosed with Asperger’s / ASD and you are looking for a psychologist or counsellor who is skilled in working with neurodiverse couples.
Common Concerns Addressed in Asperger Couple Counselling in Singapore
- Lack of emotional connectedness or sexual intimacy
- Communication struggles
- Feelings of loneliness in the neurotypical (non-ASD) partner
- Differences in parenting approaches
- Rigid routines or behaviours, including obsessions / special interests
- Problems associated with executive functioning (such as planning and problem solving)